Single Girls Bible

 The Single Girls Bible

It has come to my attention that some of my girlfriends are struggling, so back by popular demand is THE LIST. These "rules" are taken from "Why Men Marry Bitches" by S. Argov.  Before you see this and roll your eyes, give me a quick second to explain.  These are general guidelines for anyone (male or female) in any sort of dating relationship in which they find things going slower than anticipated.  The following list is an absolute godsend, and to be honest I have used them extensively in the past.  One of my exes (but still good friends mind you) used to tease me saying that I used my "rulebook voodoo" on him, haha!  Basically these "rules" preach the importance of being a strong person with a mind and a life of their own, no game playing here!  So, here you go ladies, have a LOVEly day!

1.     In romance, there’s nothing more attractive to a man that a woman who has dignity and pride in who she is

2.     He marries the woman who won’t lay down like linoleum

3.     He doesn’t marry a woman who is perfect. He marries the woman who is interesting

4.     When a woman is trying too hard, a man will usually test to see how hard she is willing to work for it.  He’ll start throwing relationship Frisbees, just to see how hard she’ll run and how high she’ll jump.

5.     Don’t believe what anyone tells you about yourself

6.     Men see how you dress, and then make assumptions about your relationship potential

7.     When a man sees you wearing very revealing clothes, he’ll usually assume you don’t have anything else going for you

8.     When he sees you scantily dressed, he is not reminded of how great you look naked.  He immediately thinks of all the other men you’ve slept with

9.     Every guy knows he can find a girl who is simply satisfied with satisfying him.  They are much more turned on by a woman who cares about her own pleasure as well.

10.  You can tell how much someone respects you by how much he respects your opinion.  If he doesn’t respect your opinion, he won’t respect you

11.  It is better to be disliked for being who you are than to be loved for who you are not

12.  Men like to be curious.  They like to feel that there’s more to the story than what they already know

13.  The mental challenge is not, “can I get her to sleep with me?” the mental challenge is, “can I get and keep her attention?”

14.  Your power gets lost the minute you start asking, “where do I stand?” because what you’ve just told him is that the terms of the relationship are now his to dictate

15.  As soon as a man has his guard up, he will not fall in love or get attached.  The only way he’ll get attached is if you lower his guard first

16.  When a woman rushes in too quickly, a man will assume she is in love with a fantasy or the idea of having a relationship.  But if he has to slowly win her over, incrementally, he’ll think she’s falling in love with who he is

17.  Don’t even mention the word “commitment” that’s the whole trick.  The less you say about it, the closer you are getting to one.

18.  If he has no guarantees, becomes attached, and thinks you could be gone at any time, that’s when he’ll cherish the idea of securing a relationship

19.  There’s nothing more prized to a man than something he had to wait for, work for, or struggle a little bit to get

20.  As soon as a woman hands a man a more serious commitment on a silver platter, he’ll be reluctant to take it

21.  Don’t be so blunt, obvious or available that you come across as having already made up your mind about the guy.

22.  You want to figure out his patters, but don’t let him figure out yours

23.  Men are far more smitten when they feel like they are “stealing” your time away from something else you could have been doing

24.  When a woman makes a man feel he’s trusted, it makes him feel strong and worthy.  It makes him want to be honorable and do the right thing.

25.  Men like rules and they like guidelines.  If there is something you don’t like he’ll respect you for voicing it.  He wants to know what the “dos and don’ts” are.

26.  Men love knowing that there’s a small part of you that they can’t get to

27.  Men read a lot into where you’ve been, by how dolled up you are when you get home.  If you are dolled up and you weren’t with him, it will keep him wondering a little

28.  The magic formula is to give a little then pull back.  Give a little… and then pull back.

29.  Women are constantly being told amazing sex will win a man’s heart. This is false.  Just because a man sleeps with you doesn’t mean he cares about you.  Nor will good sex make him care about you

30.  The way to weed out the contenders from the pretenders is to assess their attitude about waiting for sex.  If he likes you, he’ll be happy just being in your company

31.  The purpose of waiting is not just to seem classier.  You also want to give yourself time to observe him and find out key facts about him

32.  Who he tells you he is in the beginning has very little to do with how he will treat you.  If there’s sex involved, he’ll promise you things you’ve never even heard of.

33.  When you aren’t mind-blown after sex, and you continue to focus on your own life, he’ll automatically start looking at you differently.  Then he’ll start wanting to secure a relationship with you.

34.  After sex, behave as if the relationship is still new

35.  Men are intrigued by anything they do not completely control

36.  When you maintain a bit of privacy and he has to wonder a little where you are, you are stimulating his imagination.  The second he can’t get a hold of you he’ll send out an all points bulletin to find you

37.  To a man, a relationship without sex represents a relationship with no love, no affection and no emotional connection.

38.  Always preserve the mystery.  Keep the sex sporadic and unpredictable.  It makes it much more intense for the man

39.  When a woman reacts emotionally, men get three things: attention, control and the feeling of importance

40.  When you are easily manipulated, he will assume he doesn’t have to give as much in the way of a commitment in order to keep you there

41.  The best way to set limits with a guy when he’s testing you is by controlling the ebb and flow of your attention.  An emotional reaction is always a reward, even if it is negative attention.

42.  Men hear what they see

43.  When a man tries to make you jealous, it rare has anything to do with his desire for someone else.  When you are upset he gets the reassurance that you care

44.  Once you start doing the same thing he was doing, suddenly, the bad behavior will magically disappear

45.  When a man doesn’t call, a bunch of scenarios will typically run through a woman’s mind.  Similarly, his imagination will run wild when he doesn’t hear from you

46.  The more rational and calm you remain, the more emotional he will become

47.  To a man, it is totally inappropriate to be emotional when talking about something important.  When you speak calmly, he assumes it is much more important

48.  Many men reduce women to a set of givens.  A man relies on the fact that most women are emotional and that he’ll be able to push your emotional buttons once he finds out where they are.  When he can’t, he’ll often crumble and become the more vulnerable one in the relationship

49.  He is testing to see if you believe in yourself.  He wants to know who is at the controls. When you aren’t easily shaken he sees “this one can’t be manipulated”

50.  To encourage the right behavior, state what you want and then give him the solution.  Show him how he can be your hero.

51.  When he’s dating you he’ll constantly be on guard and watching to discern “does she like me for who I am? Or for what I can provide”

52.  When a man sees you are focused on your own dreams or on elevating yourself, he feels safer in marrying you because he doesn’t worry about what you’ll be trying to take away from him

53.  Men don’t judge how much money you have.  They notice how you budget what you do have.

54.  Men admire women who want to elevate themselves and pull themselves up by their own bootstraps, and fear women who are social climbers at a man’s expense

55.  He doesn’t want to marry a helpless little girl whom he will have to take care of

56.  For a man, the word respect and trust are interchangeable.  If he doesn’t respect you, he will not trust you. And without trust he will always keep you at an arm’s length

57.  When he gives you something, always acknowledge the kindness behind the gesture, not the material item itself.

58.  A man’s favorite word is appreciated.  He wants more than anything to feel revered and valued by a woman.  When she’s appreciative it motivates him to give her the world

59.  A man will not be thinking about how much he spends on you if he believes you could be “the one”. In the beginning, he will be happy to pick up the tab

60.  A man who is financially comfortable by still very stingy doesn’t want to give-anything.  He won’t want to be inconvenienced with his time, with sharing a dresser-much less a home or a life together

61.  When you move into some else’s place you don’t just give up your personal space a belongings.  More important, nearly always you also lose your feeling of independence

62.  If marriage is extremely important to you and you are ready to set a weddying date, don’t move in unless you have a ring AND a date.

63.  The biggest turn-on for a man is knowing that he is in love with a woman he can really count on, who will really be there for him

64.  Set your own time lines and limits, and leave if it’s time to get out.  Until then, don’t let him know about your time lines or deal breakers.  Then keep your eyes open and watch how he manages his 50% of the relationship.  Then you get the real deal much quicker

65.  A guy who really thinks you could be “the one” will say very little about marriage.  He’ll be much more reserved, and will slowly open up over the course of several months, because he won’t want to scare you off.

66.  The more control you have over yourself, the more of a hold you will have on his heart

67.  If a man really cares, he feels vulnerable.  That’s when he needs a protective shield the most and that’s when he’ll often behave more cooly

68.  Whenever boredom sets in, simply break the routine.  As soon s the routine changes, it will pique his interest and the relationship will become interesting aging

69.  You have a much better chance of getting engaged when a man doesn’t feel pressured into it

70.  The bitch won’t allow herself to be with a man who is biding his time until something better comes along

71.  The bitch does not hint about marriage or ask “where is this going?” instead, she hints about the removal of herself from the relationship. 

72.  When you stand up for yourself in a dignified, feminine and womanly way, you can get anything you want from a man.  When you place a high value on yourself the right way, so will he

73.  In life, half the battle has to do with the lens you choose to see yourself through.   Your fulfillment hinges on whether you see yourself through a positive lens or a negative one

74.  Men rarely take it as a compliment when you bend over backward or become too agreeable.  Men want to feel special, and when you are too nice he feels ordinary, because he assumes you’d acquiesce and become a yes-person with any man

75.  He doesn’t marry a woman who puts him on a throne.  He marries a woman who is his equal… that special woman who he can share all of life’s special moments with. 


 Argov has a list of other similar books and all of them are really beneficial, but I much prefer this one because of the whole Beyonce-esque Independent Woman feel that it has going on.